Why has feminism become a dirty word?
I write this out of slight malice. While going through my wordpress, I looked up the tag “feminism” and was disheartened at what I saw. The vast majority of the page was all negative commentary on feminists and feminism in general. I clicked on a link from a blog that was rather “meninist” and all that was there was “Woman doesn’t shave for two months”. Under it, the blog owner, we’ll call him MD, slapped on “WARNING: What is seen can’t be unseen” along with another link to a different website.
Now, I clicked on this link because I genuinely expected to see someone who didn’t exfoliate well enough and had ingrown hairs on their leg, or maybe someone who turned their underarm hair into tiny troll dolls. No matter, the clickbait was good enough to make me click on the link to see this horror.
What I saw next was obscene.
Now I’m not talking about the picture of a woman who has half as much body hair as the vast majority of men in the world, the obscenity was that a man was complaining about how horrible women who didn’t keep their bodies the way he wanted were. The horror!
I couldn’t help myself. I commented, “She looks better than most men do. Why is this such a big deal?” Warning labels belong on things that are not safe for work, could cause people with anxiety or ptsd to have an episode, or things that are generally obscene. The following conversation ensued:
MD: Because she’s not a man
Me: What I’m saying is that you don’t need to put a warning label in front of something as natural as body hair. Everyone has it, and I can guarantee you that during the winter, tons of girls’ legs look like that. There’s no need to treat it like it’s something horribly offensive.
MD: Not horribly offensive, just unattractive.
Me: “WARNING: What is seen can’t be unseen.” Oh look, a perfectly nice woman who just isn’t concerned with what men find attractive! I can guarantee you, I doubt you could find a single woman who finds under-arm hair attractive on any man. Maybe you should shave, or else someone might slap a warning label on pictures of you.
Yes, I realize I got a bit salty toward the end, but as I looked over this man’s blog (and I regret this mainly because it probably gave him more traffic than he deserved) I saw many of his other posts targeted women in saying that they were all obsessed with material things and were whiny and always wanted to use men. He also claimed that women wore yoga pants solely for the purpose of attracting men because they were see-through.
I noticed a striking similarity to recently famed blogger Roosh V. You may have heard of him, since he called for rape being legal if it was on private property. He claimed that women should essentially learn their lesson and maybe they’ll stop getting raped. Some of his other articles include “Women Must Have Their Behavior And Decisions Controlled By Men”,”Do American Women Have Looser Pussies?”, “8 Things American Women Must Do To Make Themselves More Attractive For Men”, “42 Things Wrong With American Women”,”Why Women Shouldn’t Work”. It’s also important to note that he had numerous articles about the art of getting women to sleep with you (which is probably hard for someone who hates women as much as he does). I’m not making any of this up. Some of these are on his list of his top 10 articles of 2015.
One of the things that bothered me about both of these men is that they both mentioned that they like to observe women to find out what they think. They seem to view women and lab rats on a similar level. Perhaps they figure themselves to be anthropologists,
When I was speaking to MD as mentioned earlier, he accused me of being a woman who likes to play the victim. He said that we as an entire gender tend to believe we are owed more than we are. That’s what he believes feminism to be: the self-victimization of women.
I’m here to tell you that this is no true. I know the stereotype of feminists, and I hope I can dispel some of these beliefs.
I think it was kind of funny that as soon as I corrected the grammar, all of these search results disappeared.
By definition, feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men. No, women should not have power over men. I think that women should offer to pay for the meal on dates from time to time. I honestly think that that tradition came about because women used to not work at all, so they didn’t have money to pay for themselves. Times have changed, so women should be willing to step up to the plate. Feminists also fight for male victims of rape and domestic abuse; they are out there, and their struggles are valid and deserve to be heard.
The thing is, in a world with people like Roosh and MD, how can I not fear for my safety? Roosh has 40,000 followers in 43 countries. MD’s blog does not have much traffic, but he is still proof that there are people who are still trying to see women as another species.
We’re a lot more alike than we think. I’m not saying that all men are like these two, but it’s important that we all take a step back and reevaluate why this “radical” idea of equality is something that will get you attacked and dehumanized. Feminism is not a dirty word, and I will own it and wear it with pride.